It’s time to let go of some baggage. It is time to get rid of the guilt.
“Who, me? Guilty? I don’t feel guilty. I don’t have anything to feel guilty about. Hey, what are you implying?…”
Relax. Most people feel guilty. Yes, even all the innocent people feel guilty. We feel guilty about not spending enough time with our kids or our spouse, and if we spend more time with them we feel guilty about not spending enough time with our friends or our work, and if we spend more time with them we feel guilty about not spending more time on church or community projects, and if we spend more time with them … STOP!
There are only 24 hours in the day. There are only seven days in a week. You cannot simply dispense with the laws of arithmetic, nor can you suspend time. Portion the hours you have been given as best as you can. If you do that, please do not feel guilty. You have nothing to feel guilty about.
Good subject, I bet most of the working parents are feeling this. I can’t help but wonder what if I could/can do more, or if i did things differently….I know that this is not healthy, but how can you know for sure that your choices are right?
Guilt can definitely be eliminated. It helps me to take a ‘big picture’ view and note ALL that I do on a monthly basis. This shows me how much I do and what I accomplish for others as well as myself. Plus it makes it easier for my task-oriented mind to see that ‘breaks’ are necessary. But first I need to remind myself that it’s okay to not do everything especially if it takes me off track/off center.
thanks for the blog and have a happy day!
Karen
Funny David, just drafting a similar post myself on guild. urrggh guilt is one of the worst things you can plague yourself with. It’s so important to give yourself a break and just know and admit that we ALL do the best we can. We are not perfect specimens … but we can strive for it. When we fall short, we just need to be kind to ourselves and look to the good we do manage to create. In other words, as you say… stop beating ourselves up as it does not good… in fact it’s very harmful to self esteem.
Thanks for the swift, to the point.. and very valuable post.
Best
Jayne